Although not one of the principal protagonists, Kakashi Hatake was nevertheless one of the best and most beloved characters from Masahi Kishimoto’s Naruto franchise. The guy had a very specific approach to life. Because of his great relationship with the protagonist trio, Kakashi has become a fan-favorite character, and that is the principal reason why fans are always asking questions about him. In this article, we are going to talk about Kakashi’s private life, and we are going to explain why Kakashi never got married in the series.
The most probable reason why Kakashi never married is that Kishimoto was lazy to pair him with someone, but there is a good in-universe reason behind that. Namely, Kakashi was disappointed in any form of relationship on a permanent basis due to all of the tragedies he has witnessed (killing Rin, seeing Obito become a murderer, seeing Sasuke become a villain), which is why he opted to be alone to spare himself more pain.
The rest of the article will focus on Kakashi Hatake and his private life. You’ll find out what exactly happened to Kakashi in the series, as well as why he never married, i.e., why he has been single this whole time. We’ve prepared an interesting article for you, so stick with us to the end, but be careful, as there will be spoilers.
Why is Kakashi not married?
Kakashi is known for being quite secretive about his private life, but it is known that he is single and, as far as we know, has never been in a romantic relationship with anyone. And while most fans think that Kishimoto was just lazy to give Kakashi a good partner, there is actually a good enough in-universe explanation as to why Kakashi is not married. Namely, due to the tragedies that hit him early in his life and later throughout, Kakashi lost faith in any form of permanent relationship as most people he cared about deeply either died or became evil. This includes his childhood friend Rin and Obito, his former mentor Minato, and his former pupils, Sasuke and Itachi. The most shocking event was, of course, Rin’s death, as it traumatized Kakashi so much that he still had nightmares, even in adulthood.
What happened with Rin that traumatized Kakashi so much? After several weeks had elapsed since the events that took place at Kannabi Bridge, Rin and her teammate Kakashi were faced with countless enemy Kiri-nin who held the rank of ANBU or Jonin. What first looked like a perfidious plan by the Kiri-nin later turns out to be Madara Uchiha’s work to win Obito over to his cause. The Kiri-nin previously took Rin hostage and sealed the Three-Tailed Beast, the Sanbi, inside her body. With the goal that Rin should be rescued, and once she arrived at her home village, the Sanbi would have been unleashed by the Kiri-nin to destroy the village.
The Bijuu was meant to bring terror, pain, and suffering to the people of Konohagakure. But Madara had brought Rin under his control with the help of a seal on her heart. Rin asked Kakashi to kill her, but Kakashi flatly refused, reminding her of his promise to teammate Obito. When Kakashi attacked an enemy Kiri-nin with Chidori, Rin chose suicide and jumped in Kakashi’s way. It can be assumed that she committed this act voluntarily and was not guided by Madara, who was very pleased that his plan was so simple and perfect. Shocked by the sight of Rin, Kakashi, and Obito, who both survived the cave collapse and rushed to the aid of his teammates, activated the Mangekyo Sharingan.
However, after activating the Mangekyou Sharingan, Kakashi collapsed to the ground, unconscious from exhaustion. However, Obito, enraged at the loss of his beloved Rin, slaughtered all of the Kiri-nin in a short amount of time, finally concluding that he must be in Hell. Holding Rin in his arms, Obito vows to create the dream world described by Madara, where he, Rin, and Kakashi will be reunited. With this confession of Obito’s hatred for the world, Madara’s plan has proved successful. After her death, she has a significant influence on Obito’s actions and is his incentive to change the “cruel world” into a better one.
When her two former team members want to save Sasuke and Naruto, Rin takes them by the hand and helps them to do so. Throughout his life, Obito remembers her promise to always watch over him and help him on his way to becoming a Hokage. In return, he promised her that he would do everything possible to become Hokage – he couldn’t keep this promise and therefore can’t look her in the eye when he meets Rin again in the other world. While Obito apologizes for making her wait so long, Rin only praises him for trying his best. Together with Obito, she embarks on life after death.
And while Kakashi did not love Rin like Obito, he cared deeply for her and considered her to be a true friend, which is why this event traumatized him so much. On top of that, this event directly led to Obito becoming a ruthless killer and a villain, which meant that Kakashi lost both of his friends on that day. Later, he would also end up losing his former mentor, Minato Namikaze, who died, along with his wife, while protecting Naruto from Kurama. He would also go on losing Itachi due to the events that happened as part of the Uchiha Clan massacre, and a similar thing happened with Sasuke, although the latter was ultimately saved.
As you can see, Kakashi has severe trauma when personal relationships of any kind are concerned, and that is why he simply opted to be alone because he decided to spare himself more pain. Every meaningful relationship he ever had crumbled and caused him severe emotional pain, so Kakashi simply decided to spare himself the pain. And that is why he never married.